Haters might know more than you think

There seems to be a huge push back against the haters of the world. Most of the time I would agree, the more haters you have the better. After all, that means you’re doing something right – right?


Then again, the rule of thumb is usually that if most people think the same thing there might be something to that. People in the spotlight sometimes forget that those who kiss your ass aren’t always telling you the truth. Family members don’t always tell you the truth. Quite honestly, those closest to you can be your worst enablers.

If you don’t believe that just watch American Idol during the audition rounds. The producers on purpose pick some of the worst singers to be on TV – just for ratings so the collective masses can laugh at them. But someone close to them told them they COULD sing and they think they are good enough to make it to Hollywood. None of them think THEY are the joke “singers” that people at home laugh at. For them their audtion is real and they think they have a chance. How cruel that those who love them didn’t and couldn’t tell them the truth.

Yet their critics did. And they weren’t prepared for it. Those who love them did them a greater disservice then those who never met them before.

Sure, we all want those we love and care about to succeed. But sometimes you have to bypass the sugar coated “of course you are wonderful at everything you do dear!” and tell them the hard truth.

And that’s where the haters come in. They have no problems telling you the truth. Even if it’s drowned in jealousy and hatred.

I’m not saying take all of it to heart by any means. But sift through what they say. If there is a resonating theme you might want to listen to it.

If you choose not to, of course, that’s your choice. But you might learn something about yourself if you do. You don’t have to let the weight of the haters crush you, but you should pay attention to what people who don’t know you are saying about you, especially if you are in the public eye. Enough haters can shorten your 15 minutes of fame. Not all press is good press. Some of it can destroy a career. Better to listen to those who have nothing invested in your fame than those who live off it.

But then again I guess the fear of hearing something bad about yourself, something those close to you might fear telling you, is too much to bear. But it might just make you better. And there are those who fear that too.

Just my two cent rant for the morning.

About ynnarie

Lynn Salisbury grew up in the rural town of McGrath, Minnesota. After graduating from McGregor High School in the mid 1980’s, she moved to the Twin Cities. Lynn spent her 20’s and 30’s working like the average person, never imagining the calling that awaited her. But those two decades of working, learning, growing, led to the day a friend challenged Lynn to write. Lynn met that challenge and never looked back. Now she draws from her life’s experiences and creative mind to weave stories. Stories about different worlds, different lives, different perspectives. If you ask her about her life, Lynn will tell you it’s been rather simple and sometimes boring. But if you dig a little deeper you will find that it’s been a bit more exciting than that. Lynn has done everything from designing clothes ranging from prom and wedding dresses to drag queen attire and everything in-between, became a registered, ordained Pagan minister in the state of Minnesota, to creating a group, on a social media site, of fans devoted to her favorite football team that has more members than most medium sized towns. Lynn still lives in the Twin Cities area, enjoying the changing seasons, spending time with family, working, and writing. She will admit she hasn’t found her genre niche yet, and she secretly hopes she never does, leaving the possibilities wide open for any type of story that formulates in her head, mixed with a bit of muse inspiration, to spill out into the written word. She writes what she would want to read, having taken to heart a piece of advice she once heard. And she feels blessed and grateful for the chance to share her stories with the world. As the mother of three amazing, beautiful and strong daughters, Lynn knows that even when the world seems the darkest, they are her light. And she never forgets what an honor and privilege it is to be their mother. “If you haven’t had your ‘a-ha’ moment today, you haven’t been paying attention.” – Lynn Salisbury
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