Worst word in the English language

No, it’s not a swear word. It’s the one word spoken many times a day by almost everyone – including myself – even though I try very hard to eliminate it from my vocabulary.

“What is this most horrible of words???” you ask…


The most self-defeating word in the English language. The word in and of itself seeps into the subconscious and convinces you that whatever it is you think you are unable to do you are definitely now unable to do.

Can’t is one of those words that is very self-prophetic. Once you say it – it becomes so. It doesn’t matter what you are saying it about.

Can’t go to work? Then you won’t. Because you have already convinced yourself you “can’t”.

Can’t go back to school? Then you won’t.

Can’t leave that abusive person? Can’t get that job you want? Can’t succeed in anything? Can’t change the world? Can’t? Can’t? Can’t?

Why not?

Oh yeah… you CAN’T.

Or can you?

There are things we are not able to do. And there are things we are not able to do at this time. And there are things we are not able to do because we don’t want to. But none of those statements just made limit you the way CAN’T does.

I am female. I am not able to urinate through a penis. Why? Because I don’t have one. BUT if I thought I was a man trapped in a woman’s body I could go through the process of getting one. I don’t want to. I am very happy as a female and therefore I don’t WANT to ever be able to do that. But it’s not that I “can’t” because if I wanted to I could. And that explains all the statements from above. I am not able to do something and not able to do that something at this time and I don’t ever want to do that something.

But not because I CAN’T.

The trick is to be honest with yourself. You CAN do anything. Especially in this day and age. Desire, drive, passion, action. That is all it takes to DO anything. The word CAN’T shuts down all of those DO words before you even have a chance to begin.

Realise the reasons WHY you are not able to do something, WHY you don’t want to do something.

If you want it bad enough “can’t” isn’t even an option.

Most people would never allow anyone else to limit their potential if they wanted something bad enough. Don’t let the word “can’t” take control of your mind and spirit.

It’s not only possible – I know you can.


About ynnarie

Lynn Salisbury grew up in the rural town of McGrath, Minnesota. After graduating from McGregor High School in the mid 1980’s, she moved to the Twin Cities. Lynn spent her 20’s and 30’s working like the average person, never imagining the calling that awaited her. But those two decades of working, learning, growing, led to the day a friend challenged Lynn to write. Lynn met that challenge and never looked back. Now she draws from her life’s experiences and creative mind to weave stories. Stories about different worlds, different lives, different perspectives. If you ask her about her life, Lynn will tell you it’s been rather simple and sometimes boring. But if you dig a little deeper you will find that it’s been a bit more exciting than that. Lynn has done everything from designing clothes ranging from prom and wedding dresses to drag queen attire and everything in-between, became a registered, ordained Pagan minister in the state of Minnesota, to creating a group, on a social media site, of fans devoted to her favorite football team that has more members than most medium sized towns. Lynn still lives in the Twin Cities area, enjoying the changing seasons, spending time with family, working, and writing. She will admit she hasn’t found her genre niche yet, and she secretly hopes she never does, leaving the possibilities wide open for any type of story that formulates in her head, mixed with a bit of muse inspiration, to spill out into the written word. She writes what she would want to read, having taken to heart a piece of advice she once heard. And she feels blessed and grateful for the chance to share her stories with the world. As the mother of three amazing, beautiful and strong daughters, Lynn knows that even when the world seems the darkest, they are her light. And she never forgets what an honor and privilege it is to be their mother. “If you haven’t had your ‘a-ha’ moment today, you haven’t been paying attention.” – Lynn Salisbury
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