Anger – the emotion

Anger. One of the many emotions. Sometimes warranted and justified. Most of the time not.

We humans get angry over the slightest things, and seem to not get angry enough over the bigger injustices. Someone cut you off in traffic? Road rage. Military gangs kill hundreds in another country? Oh well, doesn’t affect my life in the least. Someone doesn’t agree with your post on facebook? Time to call them every dirty name in the book and threaten them! Inhumane treatment of women in children in another country? Eh… wasn’t my sister, wife, child, friend. Ex-girlfriend/boyfriend dating someone else? Stalk them and make their life miserable because I can! Earthquake in another country kills thousands. Doesn’t affect life here one bit. Someone doesn’t answer your phone call right away, someone doesn’t respond immediately to your text, someone has a better job than you do, a better car, a better house, a better life, more money, more friends, takes a better vacation, has a better education, blah, blah, blah.

Who says it’s better? And why is everyone so angry over things that don’t really mean that much in the big wide world scheme of things? And why aren’t we angry enough over the things that matter?

But I guess that’s subjective. What matters to one person doesn’t to the next. But some things should matter more than others. Human injustice, attrocities against women and children (especially children!), abuse, neglect, war, oppression. Things that degrade the human condition.

When you look beyond your own little world, and yes Virginia, there is a whole big world out there, you find that those petty things you get angry about mean nothing. Are a waste of energy.

Anger is, in fact, a waste of energy. Don’t get angry. Do something about that which makes you angry. Put your energy into doing something to make positive changes. Maybe you can only do a little bit here and there. I’m not saying fix the world single handedly. But don’t just seethe in your own anger. Anger builds on itself and can become blinding in its own rage. Release that anger in productive ways (and no, beating the guy who cut you off in traffic is NOT a producitive way to release your anger).

There are many emotions that humans feel. Some carry a positive/negative duality. A rare few carry only a positive result. A rare few are only negative. But we are responsible for all of them. How we react when we feel said emotions is our responsibility. The emotional reactions we have based on what others do is our own reaction. How we deal with that reaction is owned only by us, the individual.

If we, as humans, are truthful with ourselves, and honest about what we are feeling and why, we can turn those negative reactions into positive outcomes. We don’t have to live an angry life. It’s our choice. And even if we have the freedom to live as we choose, we are still subject to the consequences of our actions.

Better to live a life where the outcome and consequences are more positive than negative. At least I think so. Why everyone else wouldn’t think the same I guess I will never understand.


About ynnarie

Lynn Salisbury grew up in the rural town of McGrath, Minnesota. After graduating from McGregor High School in the mid 1980’s, she moved to the Twin Cities. Lynn spent her 20’s and 30’s working like the average person, never imagining the calling that awaited her. But those two decades of working, learning, growing, led to the day a friend challenged Lynn to write. Lynn met that challenge and never looked back. Now she draws from her life’s experiences and creative mind to weave stories. Stories about different worlds, different lives, different perspectives. If you ask her about her life, Lynn will tell you it’s been rather simple and sometimes boring. But if you dig a little deeper you will find that it’s been a bit more exciting than that. Lynn has done everything from designing clothes ranging from prom and wedding dresses to drag queen attire and everything in-between, became a registered, ordained Pagan minister in the state of Minnesota, to creating a group, on a social media site, of fans devoted to her favorite football team that has more members than most medium sized towns. Lynn still lives in the Twin Cities area, enjoying the changing seasons, spending time with family, working, and writing. She will admit she hasn’t found her genre niche yet, and she secretly hopes she never does, leaving the possibilities wide open for any type of story that formulates in her head, mixed with a bit of muse inspiration, to spill out into the written word. She writes what she would want to read, having taken to heart a piece of advice she once heard. And she feels blessed and grateful for the chance to share her stories with the world. As the mother of three amazing, beautiful and strong daughters, Lynn knows that even when the world seems the darkest, they are her light. And she never forgets what an honor and privilege it is to be their mother. “If you haven’t had your ‘a-ha’ moment today, you haven’t been paying attention.” – Lynn Salisbury
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