Yes… It’s you. Not everyone else

Personal privacy.

Not something the internet allows. If it’s out there – it’s OUT THERE. Forever.

So why do we post and blog and tweet our entire lives for the world to see? Do we need to hear ourselves think? Do we need to find someone to sit down with us at our “pity party” so bad that we are willing to bear our self-victimized souls to the world looking for that one “misery loves company” enabler? Do we really need the “I’m ok” dysfunctional acceptance from people we don’t know and would never care about besides the fact they read what we posted and commented how sorry they were?

Before the internet the only person(s) you had to avoid if you didn’t want all your personal business relayed to the neighborhood was the town gossip(s). Now we are our own worst enemies. We are the town gossip talking about not just everyone else but also ourselves. Some things should stay private. Some things should remain a secret from the outside world.

I could tell you about the goofy things my kids and husband say all day long. I think some of them are funny, some are weird and some are down right disturbing. But it’s MY inside joke/laugh. Not meant for the world. You wouldn’t probably get it anyway and then it loses its humor. So I don’t share.

I could tell you what I had for breakfast, lunch, dinner, snack. Where I was when I ate said meal. What I was wearing. When I have to work, when I get off work, what I’m doing after work and with whom. I can even GPS tag where I am at every moment and tag others with me.

You could stalk me all day long because I would be ALLOWING you too. Hell! I would be encouraging you to since I just told millions of people who could see where I was if they gave a shit EXACTLY where I was. So I guess you really wouldn’t be stalking me though would you……..

And people do this every day. Give away what little personal information they have left of themselves out there for everyone to see and comment on. Or take advantage of.

And we seem to be fine with that!

However, if someone DOES start to stalk us, make negative comments about our personal lives, et al THEN we get upset and tell them to “MIND YOUR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS”.

Can we say hypocritical much?????

Had a bad day? Hell, just tell the world.

Pissed at someone? Go right ahead and tell the world and of course “warn” the other person they better STFU “or else” (rolling eyes at that one because we all know you are much braver hidden behind the computer than you would be face to face).

Do ALL of it! Because you already do.

But don’t blame the world when you tell ALL and then someone decides to comment on it in a way you don’t like. You can’t have it both ways. Either deal with other people’s opinions about YOU telling all or STFU in the first place and don’t share every moment of your life with everyone.

Just because you can now share EVERYTHING does not mean you have to – or should. Some things are private for a reason.

Lord, grant me the ability to share that which is appropriate and keep to myself that which is not. And the wisdom to know the difference.


About ynnarie

Lynn Salisbury grew up in the rural town of McGrath, Minnesota. After graduating from McGregor High School in the mid 1980’s, she moved to the Twin Cities. Lynn spent her 20’s and 30’s working like the average person, never imagining the calling that awaited her. But those two decades of working, learning, growing, led to the day a friend challenged Lynn to write. Lynn met that challenge and never looked back. Now she draws from her life’s experiences and creative mind to weave stories. Stories about different worlds, different lives, different perspectives. If you ask her about her life, Lynn will tell you it’s been rather simple and sometimes boring. But if you dig a little deeper you will find that it’s been a bit more exciting than that. Lynn has done everything from designing clothes ranging from prom and wedding dresses to drag queen attire and everything in-between, became a registered, ordained Pagan minister in the state of Minnesota, to creating a group, on a social media site, of fans devoted to her favorite football team that has more members than most medium sized towns. Lynn still lives in the Twin Cities area, enjoying the changing seasons, spending time with family, working, and writing. She will admit she hasn’t found her genre niche yet, and she secretly hopes she never does, leaving the possibilities wide open for any type of story that formulates in her head, mixed with a bit of muse inspiration, to spill out into the written word. She writes what she would want to read, having taken to heart a piece of advice she once heard. And she feels blessed and grateful for the chance to share her stories with the world. As the mother of three amazing, beautiful and strong daughters, Lynn knows that even when the world seems the darkest, they are her light. And she never forgets what an honor and privilege it is to be their mother. “If you haven’t had your ‘a-ha’ moment today, you haven’t been paying attention.” – Lynn Salisbury
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